Finding your soulmate can be difficult, especially in a small country. Yet, many people shy away from broadening their search a bit to include even neighbouring countries.
It’s understandable that we want the person we love as close as possible. Sometimes our family or professional circumstances appear to prevent us from having the flexibility to even think about somebody who is not in the same city or the same country.
When I ask clients whether they would be open to a long-distance relationship, I get mixed answers. One of the reasons for hesitating is that change is painful and it’s difficult for everybody to leave their comfort zone. Another reason is the assumption that their current life circumstances will always be the same.
What happens however when we meet the person we love, EVERYTHING changes.
I like to think of this as two planets colliding, and creating a new, beautiful planet in the process. When we meet the person we love, we create a new dynamic.
For a relationship between two people to work, BOTH have to accept change.
A common theme I observe is that both men and women want a partner who fits their current life-style. Yet, their current life-style, which is that of a single person, is the very thing they want to change!
So change is inevitable, regardless of how one looks at it. And only with change and flexibility are we able to create something new and beautiful.
A long-distance relationship demands courage, trust, and a lot of organisation.
It is also necessary that there is a perspective that in the future both partners CAN live together. Either in one of the two cities or countries or somewhere completely different.
This is what happened to me and my husband. I was living in Budapest he was commuting between Prague and Vienna. Shortly after we met, I moved to Luxembourg. Eventually, he followed me and the rest is history.
What are your thoughts on and experiences with long-distance relationships? I would love to hear from you!
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